A Typical Porn Addict’s Day

Masturbation and pornography addiction are intimately related and most addicts of both do not know where masturbation addiction ends and pornography addiction begins. Many addicts get no pleasure from pornography alone. The porn images stimulate masturbation and then masturbation provides the very real high that causes the addiction and so it goes round and around… Science bears this out and is discussed in my article on “The Basic Science of Pornography Addiction”.

The types of pornography that addicts use as their drug to masturbate to are diverse and range from standard photographs and scenes to hentai drawings, anime cartoon porn to webcams and filming themselves doing sexual acts and then masturbating to it – and everything in between.

Addicts can have porn sessions (or are “porning” as many addicts call it) that last up to and beyond 12-24 hours or even days. There is no typical length of a porning session/ porn bender and the length of them very much depends upon where the addict is in relation to how far progressed their addiction is. Some, in the early days of their addiction, can have numerous sessions per week that can last anywhere from between 2 to 8 hours whilst others are porning every day and every chance they can – even at work with “safe for work” (SFW) porn for quick fixes (which are photographic or cartoon porn scenes disguised in things like food stuffs. Websites exist that cater for just this niche.).

Many cannot make it more than 2 days without relapsing again. Some fight the addiction and can go months without a relapse but when overtaken by the compulsion to porn again – following being triggered – do so against their will – or more specifically – against their soul or higher self – and find their addiction begins again where they left off and becomes progressively worse with each relapse. The number of genital orgasms of both sexes varies per session. Some addicts can orgasm up to 15 times a day or more – every day – depending on how escalated they are in their addiction.

Porn addicted youngsters in High School often have to go to the bathroom to masturbate during classes when overtaken by compulsive and obsessive porn thoughts which dominate their minds. Like porn addicts of all ages, remembered pictures and videos run through their minds – often constantly – distracting them from everything else. Equally though, addicts of all ages get overtaken often with the urge to use porn and masturbate even if they are not thinking about porn and cannot settle or function until they do.

The same happens when porn addicts of all ages try and sleep. Porn keeps running through their minds and makes them unable to sleep for often hours at a time. They then have to masturbate again to release the chemicals prolactin and serotonin that will help them fall asleep. Porn addict’s minds become dominated with pornographic thoughts. The scenes and images they have seen are burnt into their memories – often for life. When pornography addicts try and quit porn, porn thoughts of things they have seen roll round their minds like marbles and torment them. Recovering addicts can still remember these images many years after they last used porn as a drug.

Porn addicts often feel forced by their addiction to masturbate in public places – like changing rooms in stores – to relieve the acute angst feeling that builds up in them until they are driven to distraction by it and feel like are going to explode. If they don’t masturbate at these times, they often cannot cope with the irritability and agitation that comes with not having ejaculated regularly. Focusing becomes almost impossible at these times. Sometimes though, addicts will also masturbate in public places to satisfy the escalating ‘acting out’ aspect of their addiction too – i.e.: for the ‘thrill of it’.

When their life situation allows it, porn addicts can spend a whole day or days viewing pornography with the only interruption being to answer the phone or feed an animal etc. Many don’t eat during sessions and some complain of not having eaten properly for weeks at a time. When porning, food is not on their minds. As the addiction escalates, addicts often miss breakfast and are always having to rush to work as they are exhausted from having been up most of the night porning and again after they wake up before work. When they can, and are in the throws of a full on porn and masturbation bender, they can do a full 24 hours plus of porning with no food or water and enter what they describe as a ‘sexual trance’ where they just cannot think or rationalize at all.

During these times addicts describe feeling like ‘zombies’. They try to sleep but have to keep on masturbating all night until it is time to get up to go to work or school (often with pornography on their mobile phones in bed with them – and often, if adult, with their partners in the bed next to them). Afterwards, they are often extremely depressed, have suicidal thoughts, are utterly exhausted, socially phobic and struggle to shave or wash (male and female addicts describe the same symptoms.) They also obsess during these times about how it all got so out of hand. And then the cycle starts again and they are held hostage once more by their addiction. Their lives can go on like this for years. They feel like people can see in their eyes what they have been doing the night/ day before. This can haunt them day after day for years.

Many addicts start porning when they get home from work/ school etc and before they know it, it is 3-4 am and they have not done what they intended to do before the session started. Some spend entire days in and out of various adult chat-rooms and acting out on their webcams as well as looking at pornography and masturbating. Many porn addicts – during the course of their addiction career – can masturbate to the point where they injure themselves or develop painful sores or urethral infections where they feel like they are “urinating razor blades”. (The same is often the case for women addicts too who use unclean sexual implements as a pseudo penis during benders and also develop cystitis related symptoms.) Doctors often mis-diagnose male addicts during these times and believe the health problem is a sexually transmitted disease when it is impossible to be so due to the fact that the men had invariably not had sex with anyone for a long time – if ever.

It is very common for porn addicts to have a pattern during benders of being obsessed with finding very specific types of porn images or scenes and can spend hours or even days searching for them. It becomes utterly frustrating for them after a time trying to get all the boxes ticked which will give the person the super heightened arousal state they need to genitally orgasm and can drive the addict to feeling like they will explode with the frustration at not finding exactly what they have in mind. What they are specifically looking for can change day by day depending upon their mood on any given day or how escalated they are in their addiction. They will jump around from scene to scene, picture to picture frantically trying to find the “perfect” image or scene and can end up hanging on for hours in their search and not genitally orgasm. The experience of being that obsessed can be very frightening to some addicts and they are often left traumatized afterwards. When they do eventually find the “perfect” picture or scene and orgasm, they then collapse in an exhausted heap and often instantly fall asleep then wake up afterwards emotional wrecks.

Another common theme is getting bored with not finding the exact porn they have in mind and go to walk away from the computer – only to come back to it again in seconds and begin the process all over again.

The addiction is a like a parasite which drains them of life. They feel like they are in chains which they cannot break free from. They are under the direction of a brutal compulsion to do porn over which they feel they have no control. Many addicts speak of feeling like they are constantly living life in a boxing ring being beaten black and blue by their addiction to pornography. Some describe it also like being in quick sand; whilst others say it is like drowning.

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Adult Website Filtering

Should you be blocking porn websites from your home computer? Well if you don’t like porn you should be. Do you have a wife and kids? If you do, you definitely need to be blocking porn sites with some sort of adult website filtering software. Porn sites are very sneaky in how they operate. You can get all kinds of adware and spyware installed on your pc that will only show porn related materials. If you have kids, this is one thing you should be really concerned about.

I am going to expose a few things to you that not many people know about.
I have in the past run many adult websites, and have even worked for a few of the biggest porn companies in the industry. I was not the person filming or shooting, I was the person that works behind the lines as a web developer. I would help code the membership areas and the ads that the companies used. I admit I am not proud of the line of work I was in, but I’m here to help you stay away from porn and all the seedy things that come along with it.

The porn industry is a multi-billion dollar industry, but because of a downsized economy sales are at an all-time low. This is making the companies become more unethical than they already are. They are pulling sneaky tricks, like placing cookies to monitor your online activities. They are offering free download that install adware and spyware on your computer. This is only the tip of the ice berg.

The porn companies have what they call affiliates. These affiliates promote the porn sites and get a piece of the commission. What makes this bad though is the fact that these affiliates are suffering from some of the all-time lowest sales. You might think this is a good thing, but it is not. When you have people with no morals looking to increase their porn sales, they try to get everyone they can to their sites. It does not matter the age, race, or sex. They want these visitors and will market their sites on non porn sites, and try to expose everyone they can to them.

Believe it or not this is not the worst part. They will create something free for you to download or run an auto download into you temporary internet files and install a virus, adware, or spyware. These will give you popups to porn and all kinds of other nasty stuff. Now you might be thinking that is illegal, and you are 100% right. Think about it for a moment, we are dealing with unethical people that are willing to stop at nothing to get a sale. In their eyes, doing something illegal or unethical is just another day of work.

Now, let’s say a porn affiliate is promoting a huge porn company, and the porn company happens to find out the affiliate is doing something illegal. What do you think they are going to do about it. When I started in the adult industry years ago, that affiliate would have his or her account canceled and been reported to every agency possible (Including the F.B.I.). You know what happens now, They turn a blind eye to it. I know this first hand, and this is the reason I am no longer in the adult industry. I wish I could go into more details on this, but I would be jeopardizing myself and my family.

To sum all this up, you need to filter adult websites from your computer. Working in the adult industry, we were able to bypass almost all adult filters one way or another. There was only one piece of software we were not able to bypass, and it was My Porn Blocker. These guys made a great piece of software and update it all the time. Till this day no porn company has found a way to get past this great software. So please check out this software so you or your family is not exposed to any of the corrupt and shady companies I used to work for.

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Sex Addiction Help: Essential Truth No 1 -The Truth About Love, Sexual Addiction and Porn Addiction

Do you want the truth about why you are addicted to sex?

ESSENTIAL TRUTH #1

Many of your fundamental beliefs, behaviors, habits and opinions are learned when you are very young-acquired inadvertently by association, conditioning and reinforcement rather than chosen consciously by TRUE REASONING.

Due to this developmental process, some of the fundamental beliefs you have subconsciously accepted as ‘true’ are, in fact, Not True.

THE TRUTH EXISTS IN YOUR CONSCIOUSNESS…

SAFELY ‘LOCKED AWAY’ IN YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND.

When you accepted beliefs that were ‘not true’ in childhood, you decided how to best meet your needs and desires based on these beliefs. Reinforced, your body naturally stored these beliefs and behaviors as subconscious programs… Which then began to automatically determine your behaviors of sexual addiction, love addiction and or porn addiction.

These programs are operating beneath your awareness… Like the programs that operate your heartbeat and blood pressure.

Held to logical reasoning, your now-adult-mind would no longer agree with your programmed instructions. If the beliefs were ‘brought to light’, you could see the logical flaw that ’caused’ you to choose your behavior.

…THE TRUTH IS, YOUR PROBLEMATIC BEHAVIORS ARE BASED ON FLAWED BELIEFS.

The Beliefs Were Flawed. You Were Innocent.

“A belief is more than an idea the mind possesses, it is an idea that possesses the mind.” – Robert Oxton Bolton

The Bottom Line Is This:

YOUR NOW-ADULT MIND IS OPERATING IMMATURE SUBCONSCIOUS PROGRAMS BENEATH YOUR AWARENESS.

Inaccurate limiting programming, that exists in your subconscious mind, is the reason you are experiencing yourself addicted to sex, love or porn.

Your subconscious programs can be compared to those of a computer. Just like the instructions within a given computer program, your subconscious programs are controlling your reactions by limiting the behavioral responses you see available to you.

As your Awareness has expanded through your VALUABLE LIFE EXPERIENCE, you have inevitably encountered limitations based in your personal childhood programming–immature conclusions which have resulted in your specific experience of sex addiction, love addiction or Porn.

Your subconscious programming was accepted in Stages, which perfectly align with your physical development as you were maturing.

STAGE ONE SUBCONSCIOUS PROGRAMMING:

BIRTH TO 18 MONTHS OLD

You began your physical experience as an infant in a state of complete dependence. Your vulnerable state was intensified by the fact that you could not-yet communicate in the same verbal language spoken by your caregivers. As a direct result, you may have experienced yourself as restricted, perhaps even powerless, to get your needs and desires met.

In Reality you were powerless to independently get your needs met.

During this stage of development you will have made conclusions about:

1. Whether or not you are welcome in the world,
2. Whether or not the world is supportive of you, and
3. Whether or not just ‘Being’ in this world is sufficient.

When you experienced, in your innocence, your needs or desires as unfulfilled or even rejected, you may have decided that the most efficient way to avoid this frustrating experience is to reject the very aspect of your Self that is experiencing the need or desire.

In this well-intended effort to protect your vulnerable, emerging Self, you may have inadvertently programmed and reinforced the flawed belief:

“My needs and/or desires are not important.

I Am not valuable as I Am.”

This conclusion is followed by a decision about your behavior, such as:

“I must adapt and be something different”

ESSENTIAL TRUTH #1 is:

I AM VALUABLE AS I AM.

MY NEEDS AND DESIRES ARE VITALLY IMPORTANT.

True needs are your body’s way of communicating to you that which is necessary for your survival. Your experience of desire is your soul’s way of communicating what is necessary for you to thrive. In other words, as a mature adult, your ABILITY TO THRIVE (as compared to simply survive) is now dependent upon your personal ability to hear and productively respond to the truth of your own needs and desires.

Here is an EXAMPLE:

YOUR EXPERIENCE: Imagine yourself as a 9 month old infant. You have awakened in your crib and are experiencing hunger pangs. Your body is communicating your need for food.

However, in your completely dependent state, you cannot meet this need independently. Not only do you need food. You need someone to provide it for you and feed you.

You communicate your need in the way you know how…the way that is in perfect integrity with your developmental stage…you cry. Your mother hears your cry.

However, desensitized by her own past conditioning and subconscious programming, rather than hear and appropriately respond to your need for food, she falsely concludes that “you are just being fussy”. She communicates this to you by closing the door to your room and leaving you to just cry it out.

TRUE REALITY:

Your mother, in what was a well-intended response to her false perception of reality, has presented you with the suggestion that your expression of your need for food is Not Real. She presented you with a false reality–that “you are just being fussy”.

THE CHOICE: Although you do not-yet-possess the maturity to logically discern, you are being presented with a choice; a choice to accept your Reality or your mother’s False Reality.

THE RESULT: If you accept True Reality, your conclusions and behaviors will be based in Truth and you will not experience the symptoms of a subconscious program. On the other hand, if you accept your mother’s suggestion, you will have accepted a False Reality and the behaviors you see available to you will be limited by this False Belief.

As a dependent child your True and Real experience of your needs being rejected, conditioned and reinforced over time, may lead you to subconsciously accept ‘Self-Rejecting Beliefs’ such as:

I don’t really need this–I’m just being fussy. I’m too needy. My needs are not really important. Communicating my needs won’t work.

…Or you may accept ‘Significant Other-Rejecting Beliefs’ such as:

Women cannot be trusted to meet my needs (independent of whether or not they are actually trustworthy), etc.

Rejection of your Self or Others leads to:

The False Self

THE REAL ‘PROBLEM’: Your Integrity will compel you to eventually acknowledge your True Needs and Core Desires (ie: I’m feeling hunger. I need food). Even if you’ve rejected them, they are alive and well–patiently and reliably cycling you to discover, through your experience of addiction, the subconscious program you accepted in your innocence (ie: I’m overly needy. I don’t really need what I think I need).

PS: If you are experiencing addiction, you will not-yet-aware of these conclusions, as you will subconsciously perceive them as ‘reality’.

Until you see True Reality, due to your commitment to meet your Needs and Desires, you will be compelled to operate from a FALSE SELF based on your subconscious program (ie: Unconsciously believing “I’m too needy”, I become driven to lie when I experience them and become a compulsive liar).

As an adult operating a Subconscious Program, the pool of behaviors you see available to you to meet your Needs and Desires are greatly limited. Having unconsciously rejected your own needs, you have devised a backup plan of sorts–one that you believe will eliminate the risk of the potentially painful experience of being rejected by yourself or others. However, in Reality, your behavior is greatly increasing your risk of being rejected.

Your experience of Sex Addiction is your False Identity attempting to meet your needs from a limited pool of self-sabotaging behaviors based on your unconscious Misperception of Reality.

IN REALITY: By subconsciously accepting programming that rejects your Needs and Desires as valuable, you unintentionally abandoned and rejected your True Self by deciding you ‘should be’

SOMETHING DIFFERENT THAN THE TRUTH THAT YOU ARE.

Subconscious Programs can result in multiple False Selves. False Selves CANNOT fill the real need for love and intimacy because they are not forming attachments based in Truth. In other words, the False Identity is INCAPABLE of meeting the True Need it is compulsively trying to fulfill.

By inadvertently accepting Subconscious Programs, you DIMINISH your CREATIVE POTENTIAL and effectively WITHHOLD FROM YOURSELF YOUR RIGHT TO MEET YOUR REAL NEEDS and DESIRES.

THESE SELF-LIMITING PROGRAMS ARE EVIDENCED BY THE EXPERIENCE OF PERSISTENT UNWANTED THINKING, BEHAVIORS, AND/OR CIRCUMSTANCES……including the experience of sexual addiction love addiction and porn addiction.

THE SOLUTION:

RELEASE YOUR LIMITING SUBCONSCIOUS PROGRAMMING AND REPROGRAM A NEW EXPANSIVE CONCLUSION IN ALIGNMENT WITH TRUE REALITY.

This process requires:

1. Opening your mind to the possibility that you’ve accepted limiting operations that are not necessarily true,

2. Locating the limiting program,

3. Witnessing the Misperception of Reality in the original program and Declaring the Truth of your experience, and

4. Consciously asserting and reinforcing behaviors in alignment with your newly decided expansive Truth.

Thanks!

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3 Tips To Stop Porn Addiction

If you find yourself going back again and again to your computer to consistently surf for porn in ever more increasing variety and you cannot seem to stop yourself you probably have an internet porn addiction. Some may continue to think there is no issue with this as you are not hurting anyone but the truth of the matter is you could be hurting your relationships with your family, partner or future partners because of this behavior that is slowly warping your mind with unrealistic expectations of yourself and others along with the huge amount of time wasted in front of a screen. You can however stop porn addiction if you choose to but beware, if you are not serious about stopping behaviors that are damaging your life then you will gain nothing from this article, if you genuinely want to change your life for the better then there are a few things you can do right now to help!

1. Eliminate Porn From Your Computer

Do it now … do not worry I wont go anywhere but if you cannot delete all your bookmarks, all the porn on your hard drive and any you might have backed up then you will never be free of your addiction.
OK … have you done it? If your PC is now free of porn and links to pornography then you have taken a step closer to freedom, there is nothing dirty or smutty now on your machine it is a clean slate as should be your mind as you enter into a pact with yourself to give up porn. Also, if you have any porn site subscriptions cancel them now!

2. Get A Site Blocker

There are many programs out there that control what you browse and lock out undesirable content, usually it is to protect children which may be a good idea if you have kids but for you this could be a way to stop the ease of access to online pornography that makes it so addictive and easy to get a hold of. While you can always disable it the extra hurdle this places will often stop you from subconsciously looking up adult entertainment when you really are trying to quit.

3. Do Some Research

One of the most disturbing trends with porn is how it degrades women and when someone becomes addicted to such entertainment their entire view of women and sex becomes unrealistically skewed making men think of women as sex objects and this coupled with someone who may also suffer from low self esteem and rejection issues may come to hate women. The truth is very different but when all your information about women comes from the men oriented sex industry then that is what you subconsciously learn. If you do admit you have a problem with porn or you know someone who does do some research into what women think about sex and men in today’s world, go to women’s sites and get informed about the truth of the matter. Not only will this expand your world view it may counteract some of the damage that too much porn may have done to your view about the opposite sex and this in turn can really turn you off porn as an outlet for sexual desire when you see the damage it can do.

These 3 tips to stop porn addiction are just a start and only the third suggestion is really on the path to finding a long term solution. This is because at its core this sort of addiction is a psychological issue caused by some factors in a person life that vary from person to person but most commonly occur from poor self esteem or an ingrained low opinion of women from other sources. Unfortunately there is no easy cookie cutter method to eliminate porn addiction from a person because everyone’s issues are so different so a personalized approach targeting the root causes of why you came to have the addiction is the only real way to get results.

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Looking At Porn Together – The Subject, Not The Pictures

The first Playboy magazine was published in 1953. This baby-boomer would have been seven years old at the time. In the past six decades, that magazine and several other pornographic magazines have gained respectability in much of our culture. They can be easily found in most cities and adult bookstores along our interstate highways. Today, Playboy magazine represents some of the mildest porn on the street. Other print magazines and online sources graphically depict men and women engaged in all kinds of sex acts – heterosexual, homosexual, even sex with children and animals.

In addition to the growing prevalence of this print genre, movie makers have increased nudity and graphic sex scenes in their work in recent decades. Thus, today many of us go to R-rated movies with gratuitous, graphic sex scenes and accept it as normal adult entertainment. Besides the relatively tame stuff you might see in the theater, a multitude of X-rated videos and DVD’s are created and made available for sale or rent throughout our world.

Now, maybe you do not struggle with temptations to get or look at pornographic material. Maybe you would never have any of it in your home – purposely. But, if you have a computer in your home, you at least have the potential of porn in your home. Though porn may have little or no ability to tempt you, that may not be true for everyone in your home.

When I work with adult men who are struggling with porn or other sexual-sin issues, they typically tell me about encountering porn the first time back in high school, junior high, and even in elementary school. A friend’s dad or big brother may have had a stash of magazines or videos which would often be explored after school, before any adults came home. Sometimes, it was their own dad’s or their own older brother’s stash. And sometimes that stash was not even hidden. According to safefamilies.org, the average age of a boy’s first exposure to porn today is 11. That is the average age. That means that many boys are introduced to that shameful world much earlier than 11.

The advent of floppy discs, CD’s, DVD’s and flash drives has made porn quite concealable and portable. Your teenager could be carrying around the equivalent of a stack of smut magazines in his pocket or backpack. The prevalence of smartphones possessed by youths in recent years puts all manner of pornographic material right at hand. These things make temptations to look too great to resist for many young people.

Pornography is a huge problem. It is probably a greater problem than you realize.

Dr. Mark Laaser is a respected expert in sexual addictions. Recently I listened to an interview of Dr. Laaser in which he addressed the subject of porn addiction. In the discussion, he identified three “A’s” that accelerate the addictive potential of porn among males. They are: Accessibility, Anonymity, and Affordability. Pornography is quite accessible, especially with Internet access. Not only is it easily accessed, it can be accessed with total anonymity. It can be easily hidden, kept as a dark secret of one’s life for years. Finally, it is quite affordable, even free via many sources on the Internet.

Surely we can all appreciate how erotic pictures are exciting to the male eye. When we add to this natural factor the easy accessibility in our world, the ability to access porn without anyone knowing, and the little or no cost involved, we can see how many men could easily become hooked on porn. The natural titillation of erotic pictures and their easy accessibility is only part of the story.

Another major reason porn is so strongly attractive to males is sometimes missed. Here it is: Porn entails no relational load for a man. The women who excite a man with their erotic pictures have no relational expectations. She doesn’t care if he comes home on time, or at all. He can leave her in that secret place for days, weeks, months; and when he finally comes to see her again, she is as excited to entertain as the first time they met. She doesn’t care if he looks at other women; in fact, she expects that. She does not expect to be understood, supported, or pleased in any way. She is quite content to have contributed to his happiness. That is what I mean by “no relational load.” This is very desirable to many men.

A relationship with a real person, however, carries a substantial relational load. A wife has her own desires, her own needs. And most of these are not sexual in nature. A healthy woman does not want to be merely used as an object of sexual lust; she wants to be loved, cherished. She wants a life partner, not just a sex partner. If she is not treated with kindness and consideration, she will have trouble relating with her man in any way. She has expectations (realistic or not); and when these are unmet, she is not happy. Again, this is what I mean by a relational load. And for many men, this load is a strong motivation to avoid the real woman and engage porn.

Whether he feels inadequate to please his wife in the bedroom, or to please her in general, a man may find the porn-fueled, fantasy world of sex preferable to that of a relationship with a real woman. In marital situations, porn not only creates problems, it complicates other problems.

When a woman discovers that her husband is engaged with porn, she often feels very much like she would if she were to discover him cheating with a real person. And just as often, the man does not get this. Her hurt and anger seem excessive; after all, he was just looking at some pictures. Men and women tend to see this very differently. The man sees his looking at porn and an actual affair as miles apart. His wife tends to see the two experiences as almost next door neighbors.

Pornography not only damages intimacy, it also exacerbates already damaged intimacy. When intimacy is damaged in a marriage by any means (exhausting work schedules, arrival of a new baby, conflict between the couple), a man may be more tempted than usual to resort to pornography. He doesn’t feel close to his wife; perhaps he doesn’t want to be close to her because he feels disrespected; porn offers an easy alternative. With porn he doesn’t need to be close to her or anyone. When his pornography is discovered, the original cause of diminished intimacy in the relationship is often buried under a pile of pain and shame.

Sexual sin is especially addictive. To explain the addictive nature of pornography and other sexual sins, Dr. Patrick Carnes, another respected expert on sexual addictions, says that sex addictions are literally chemical addictions. In sexual addiction, one is simply addicted to the chemicals of his or her own body that are associated with sexual excitement. And sex is used for the same reasons illicit drugs are used. A person wants to change the way they feel; and they have found something that quickly does that for them.

As one’s capacity for fulfilling, intimate relationships decreases, the vulnerability to addictive behaviors increases. As people experience injury in relationships, the defense strategies they choose actually inhibit their capacity for intimacy. The walls created to protect from harm serve to isolate from intimate contact, too. Thus, it is not uncommon to encounter addictive disorders in the work of relational counseling. And it is not uncommon to see this addictive disorder (addiction to porn) in our counseling work.

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Beyond Your Small Business Ideas

People expect Quick results and immediate rewards when they realize their small business ideas. When the first excitement of having their own small business fade off, the vast majority say to themselves that it’s not paying off as they expected. They give up.

To be able to reach your goal of success, you can’t let the initial workload and obstacles stop you. As all entrepreneurs at start, you will face the situation of having a negative income, you’ll spend more money than you earn.

When hit by this reality, most people drops out of the race. Whit the tail between their legs, they go back to their previous job.

The main reason of this situation is that there is a general misconception ; “It’s easy to convert small business ideas into a real small business”. “It’s easy to maintain the new business”. However, if you’re able to look beyond humps and bumps, your business will prosper and you can reap the rewards.

The conception that it’s a piece of cake to turn small business ideas into a thriving small business, have it’s home in fairytale books. To start and maintain a business will take both your time and some of your money.

Any successful small business entrepreneur will tell testify that at the start, they spent countless of hours in front of the computer, planing and executing their business ideas. They will tell you that it’s only after the first hard part is done, the work of a small business entrepreneur will become easy.

An established small business owner can make money sleeping or by sending out a few emails, those amazing benefits comes from the initial efforts and time spent on the business.

If it’s not easy to make small business ideas a reality, how come people with no knowledge, without experience, can succeed? Well, it’s not easy, but it’s simple. The key to small business success is simplicity.

To start a successful small business is simple, it’s simple in the terms of having uncomplicated directions to follow. That’s how it’s done, people without prior knowledge or experience are able to create wealth. It’s necessary to find a simple and proved system to follow to the letter.

The hope of your small business ideas succeeding, is to be found in your ability to follow the simple system and mirror its success. You will never be successful if you sit back and wait for the success to hit you in your forehead. You can’t expect someone else to do it for you.

Forget the the theory of an easy small business, embrace the simple nature of success. Once you gain momentum, your progress will never stop.

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Small Business Ideas – A Whole Lot to Choose From

Small business ideas are a necessity for people who want to supplement their regular incomes with some extra cash to ascertain financial freedom in the future. Anyone, who wants to start a small business with an intention of themselves or their spouse running it are welcome to browse through a lot of ideas available across the internet.

Not only do these small business ideas reinforce the idea that extra money can be made but can be started off with the minimum or no leg work at all. If the chosen idea is an online one, you would probably need no investment at all. Browse through the many ideas available online and make your decision today.

The following are a few ideas:

a. Online data entry: Data entry requires minimal skills and as far as a person can read and write and has a flair for the keyboard, this could be the best of the small business ideas. As a data entry specialist you could be entering corporate data or putting in products into an eCommerce website. This work is highly in demand and well paying too.

b. Forms and surveys: A little more daunting than the data entry, this requires certain knowledge. Filling up forms and surveys pays very well and all one needs to do is to fill up market survey forms and surveys that will be used by companies to formulate their selling strategies.

c. Writing: If one is good at language and can handle English well, this could be one of the most well paid business ideas. Writing research papers, articles and web content is highly in demand today and pays well.

d. Programming: This is the most well-paid of the small business ideas and it requires a lot of technical knowledge. Programmers are a rare creed and skills vary from one person to another. Depending on skills, finding work online is not a very big deal for any programmer. Since this is a highly specialized skill, it is also paid for handsomely.

e. Internet Marketing: This is another of the small business ideas that works wonders for many small businesses across the world. Any website that looks to make money needs to market itself and thus needs customized attention. This is one of the small business ideas that need highly specialized skills and a little workforce to succeed. The returns are handsome and the work is very satisfying.

With more and more websites coming up every day and technology changing leaves almost every few weeks, small business ideas related to the internet are evolving very quickly. The faster you put your foot into the door, the greater the chances of success.

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Building Your Business With Small Business Ideas

With the right small business ideas, you can turn a simple idea into real profits. An at-home business is the dream of many people, but you need a strong beginning if you want to see your business succeed. Luckily, you can use the experiences and tips of others to help you along the way.

What to Avoid

Using small business ideas to learn more about starting your own home-based, local, or online shop can be challenging. There are many offers that simply won’t work, despite the many testimonials that you can earn money. For example, pyramid schemes were once considered legitimate but quickly turned out to be a fraud. All of the ways that really can help you earn money will include some effort on your part. Owning and running any profitable business takes time and effort, so don’t try to take the easy way out or you may end up with nothing to show for your investment.

Research the many small business ideas that you come across and want to use for your own home-based, local or online business. Try to imagine implementing the ideas that you read about before investing your time, which is valuable, or money into them. Some ideas, such as building a website for your business, can easily help you make more money and don’t involve a lot of time. Others, such as expanding your local business, can take many years to develop.

Listen to Experts

Small business ideas from people with experience are the best way that you can earn more money with your small business. Going from a small business with a home base to a local or online business can definitely be challenging, so you need to use these ideas to assist you in building and expanding your business over time. Your business will change over time and your need for new ideas will grow. Changing your business to meet customer demand and growing with your community is one of the most rewarding aspects of owning a business.

Small business ideas can help you make these changes gracefully. You can use ideas to find out where your profits should be spent or saved, and how to meet customer demands successfully over time. No matter what your niche is or how many customers you have, you can use ideas from the experts to meet the ever-changing needs of your small business. Your local chamber of Commerce is a great place to find these experts.

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Sears Promo Codes – What Can I Buy With Them?

A lot of people are looking for ways they can save money. Whether they are buying food, clothing, household items, and necessities, it is the innate nature of an individual to look for a discount. If they cannot find a discount, they will look for a cheaper option. This though, does not apply with Sears promo codes.

The beauty about having a code is that you can get to save some items on your shopping venture. Since you have gotten a promo code for Sears, you can make use of the discount only with the brand. But you should not worry on what you can use it with as Sears has a complete line of everything that you can possibly need or want. The only thing they lack is food.

You can use your promo code if you will buy appliances, automotive/tires, beauty, baby, bed, bath, home, books, clothing, electrical gadgets, gifts, fitness, sports, health, jewelry, and a lot of other products. With Sears, you can easily have choose what you want to buy as they have such an extensive array of available products that you can choose from. You can even buy gifts for your friends.

The list of items that you can buy with your Sears promo codes seems to be endless. Your needed items can simply be bought at Sears. Because of this, you do not need to go to another retail store so you can complete what’s on your list. Truly, this fact alone can already save you some money on transportation costs that you would have otherwise needed to spend.

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Top Brand Professional Automotive Tools Reviewed – Know Your Budget

The tool market is well serviced in terms of brands, design, quality and price. The key consideration is to evaluate your needs. For example, it is pointless buying a laptop capable driving sophisticated 3G games when really all that is required from the unit is basic desktop and internet work. This kind of example also applies to buying tools. For instance, why waste one’s budget on buying the most expensive tools when their application is for occasional hobby type tasks.

Lets start with an overview comparison. It is widely agreed that the best quality and designed tools are manufactured by the Snap-on company. This brand of tools is designed for the professional market. No tool brand is perfect and infallible to failure. However, the Snap-on lifetime warranty means that when a tool breaks, it is replaced or repaired by the service representatives. Snap-on tools can be bought from their distribution trucks and vans that visit automotive workshops. Alternatively, their online catalog allows purchasing via the internet. Second-hand and recycled Snap-on tools are also eagerly traded through websites like eBay and eBay Partner sites.

As noted above, Snap-on automotive tools are at the upper price range. However, there is no shortage of professional grade tool brands at price points below that of the Snap-on brand. For example the brands: Matco, MAC and Cornwell are equally respected in the professional automotive sector. Matco, MAC and Cornwell off a range of professional tools that deliver quality and reliability while carrying sound lifetime warranties and professional after sales service. And are less expensive than the Snap-on brand for the budget minded professional automotive technician. The availability of these brands for sale is similar to Snap-on tools. Trucks visit and distribute tools at automotive workshops. Also, online catalogs and auction type websites offer buy opportunities.

For those budget sensitive buyers, the next set of tool brands is SK and Craftsman. The manufacturing quality of these brands meet USA standards and carry similar lifetime warranties like those brands mentioned above. So, for the semi-professional or hobbyist application these tool brands are an ideal choice. Some may argue that the SK brand, although not as popular, is a little superior to the Craftsman brand. But this opinion is subjective. Craftsmanship and SK brand tools are a more accessible to the buying market. For example, Craftsmanship brand tools are stocked at Sears stores, while the SK brand is found in automotive parts stores and outlets.

In summary, if price is no restraint, then tools from the Snap-on range are considered to be the best quality. Where quality and service is still a priority, then brands such as: matco, MAC and Cornwell offer offer quality profession lines of tools as less expensive price points. Finally, the brands SK and Craftsmanship serve the semi-professional market with tools that are not subject to the high demands of daily professional usage. The advice for any buyer is assess the task application of the tool, and allocate your budget to buy the right tool for the right job.

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